Hi there
I hesitate to ask this, but are you 100% sure there's nothing else on your PC / network / wireless using your connection?
Contention doesn't usually cause ping times to increase that much. It also doesn't usually cause upload speeds to decrease. With your ping times increasing in line with your downstream and upstream speeds decreasing like that, my first thought would be to make sure that there's nothing else running on your PC or any other maching connected to your network that's using a lot of bandwidth.
Now, maybe I'm speaking out of turn, but if you have wireless, is it encrypted with WPA and MAC address restrictions? (not the be-all and end-all of security, but it does help deter the casual wireless thief)
If you install
NetMeter on your PC does it show any usage during the time when pings are bad?
If not, and it is a weird BT / priority problem then yes it does need sorting... and if you're sure there is absolutely nothing wrong with your own setup, then the ISP should be able to get it resolved by BT.
So my answer to your questions would be (based on all diagnostics your end being ok):
1. I don't know whether BT will confirm what DSLAM / MSAN you are on. I've never heard of this, so chances are this would be a 'No'
2. The Max speeds you are seeing do not technically fall within 'fault' parameters, but given the problems and the odd timings of them, it should be accepted as a speed fault.
3. This might be your best bet, funnily enough. If it is a weird priority issue, then BT examining your exchange port might be the best way to go. They might reset / reconfigure it so that you do not get too swamped by other users. Maybe.
4. Probably as a last resort, if the SFI (special faults investigations) team got involved, then they may try this.
5. It might help, as (a) it might reset your priority level, or (b) if you really are simply getting swamped by some heavy business users, at least you'd be contending against them on an equal basis, rather than as a 'lowly' home user. You might be able to get your ISP to try this for a month for you to see if it helps, on a trial basis, perhaps.
Just for info, it will cost your ISP £5+VAT to change you to Max Premium, which in turn costs an extra £3.60 per month. It would cost them £5 to change you back to normal Max as well.
Not sure if that helps or not!