Interestingly DLM/MAX DSLAM has recovered slightly this AM, back to 35Mbps so now I'm thinking that disabling Stealth Mode may have affected DLM somehow ? as I have never seen it recover, it has always just dropped ?
The DLM only monitors the xDSL link. It can't see anything internet related like tcp/udp/pings etc.
It's the Error seconds (ES) that shot up that caused the DLM to lower the banding level used, reported as MAX DSLAM on the Fritzbox.
The DLM increasing this limit would be because it has seen the line performing better, which will be in the form of low Error Seconds, or something similar.
What you do with your internet connection doesn't effect the xDSL circuit. The xDSL is just the link between you and the cabinet and your data runs transparently over this.
You get the same ES not using your connection as you do downloading/uploading at full rate.
Your issue is the DLM is seeing ES which can only be down to the modem, the DSLAM or the copper pair running between the 2.
ES can be caused by all manner of things from failing modems, bad joints in the copper, a dodgy DSLAM port or electrical interference from faulty equipment in your home or anywhere in close proximity to your line between you and the cabinet.
Water pumps/sewage pumps/high wattage machinery/even faulty electric fences anywhere between you and the cabinet can cause ES on a line.
The only thing you are in control of that can improve things is your modem and your internal wiring (extension wiring) at the master socket.
That's why trying another modem was suggested.
If your Fritzbox was failing/developing a fault then substituting it for the other Fritzbox would help.
I'd recommend unlocking your HG612 and running dslstats as it gives excellent graphs of everything xdsl related.
The HG612 also has a different vendor chipset in it which might play nicer with your DSLAM.
Your DSLAM is a Huawei made DSLAM with a Broadcom chipset inside. The HG612 also has a Broadcom chipset.
Dslstats can run on Windows, Linux or a raspberry pi.
This would likely be tricky for Openreach to identify due to the intermittent nature of it.
Ideally you catch this during the burst of errors and if it's caused by electrical interference, tracking down the source.
I mentioned further up the thread that kitz had something somewhat similar. ES would start out of nowhere, cause unknown, and would continue until the DLM resynced her line.
However a simple resync by kitz stopped the ES immediately, until the next episode days or weeks later.
Try resyncing your modem if you catch the error bursts happening to see if they stop.
Dslstats has the ability to alert you via email when an ES burst happens.