I dont know about industry standards, in other countries 7db is more popular, sky also use 7db on their adsl llu.
Whilst bt are more likely to use 3db due to their history it is less logical, as 2 extra tones will take 7db to 1db still a positive number, whilst with 6db its down to 0db and will get errors. For this reason if they using 6db they may as well use 4db as both can only tolerate one extra bit loading.
so logical best is 1,4,7,10,13 db loading.
not 0,3,6,9,12,15 as BT do.
bear in mind I said what I think they should do, I am aware BT wont use 4db. I dont think they will even use 3db tho as they seem more paranoid about stability on FTTC because of iptv.